Lovely Advice

Health:

  1. Drink plenty of water.                                                                           
  2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
  3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
  4. Live with the 3 E’s – Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
  5. Play more games.
  6. Read more books than you did last year.
  7. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
  8. Sleep for 7 hours.
  9. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

Personality:

  1. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  2. Don’t have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
  3. Don’t over do. Keep your limits.
  4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
  5. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.
  6. Dream more while you are awake.
  7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
  8. Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
  9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.
  10. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
  11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
  12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
  13. Smile and laugh more.
  14. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Society:

  1. Call your family often.
  2. Each day give something good to others.
  3. Forgive everyone for everything.
  4. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
  5. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
  6. What other people think of you is none of your business.
  7. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:

  1. Do the right thing!
  2. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
  3. However good or bad a situation is, it will change. 
  4. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
  5. The best is yet to come.
  6. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Prophet Muḥammad ﷺ said

Prophet Muhammad ﷺ Said : 

  • “There is a group of Allāh’s angels who move about the streets searching for the people who mention Him. When they find a group doing that, they call each other, “Here is what you are looking for.”
  • Then they cover that group with their wings right up to the sky.
  • When these angels return to the heavens, their Lord asks them, although He knows the answer:
  • “What were My Servants saying?”
  • They say:
  • “They were describing Your Holiness and Greatness, and were busy praising and glorifying You.”
  • Allāh then asks: “Have they seen Me?”
  • The angels reply: “By Allāh! They have not seen You.”
  • Allāh says: “What would they have done if they could see me?”
  • The angels reply: “They would then be even more busy in their worship, glorification, and praise.”
  • Then Allāh asks: “What did they want from Me?”
  • The angels reply: “They asked You for Jannah (Heaven).”
  • Allāh says: “Have they seen it?”
  • They answer: “No, by Allāh! They have not seen it.”
  • Allāh says: “What would they have done if they had seen it?”
  • The angels answer: “Had they seen it, they would desire it more eagerly, and would work harder to deserve it.”
  • Then Allāh asks: “From what thing did they want Me to protect them?”
  • The angels answer: “They wanted to be protected from Hell.”
  • Allāh says: “Have they seen it?”
  • They answer: “No, by Allāh! They have not seen it.”
  • Allāh says: “What would they have done if they had seen it?”
  • The angels answer: “Had they seen it, they would have feared it and run from it even more.”
  • Then Allāh says: “Be My witnesses: I have forgiven them!”
  • One of the angels then says: “But among them was a person who is not one of them. He had simply come for something he needed.”
  • Allāh says: “I have forgiven him too, just because he happened to sit with them. Anyone who sits with those people will not be a loser.”

Imam Ash-Shafi’iee Quote

Let days go forth and do as they please, And remain firm when settled is the Decree

Don’t be afraid of what happens by night, For the affairs of this world are not to last

And be a man, strong in the face of calamities, And let your nature be that of kindness and honesty

If your faults become too much in front of the people, And you wish that they were to be concealed,

Then know that kindness covers all faults, And how many faults are kept hidden by kindness!

No sadness lasts forever, nor any happiness, And you shall not remain in poverty, or any luxury

Generosity cannot be hoped from the miserly, For no water exists in the Fire for the thirsty

Your provision will not be decreased due to life’s delays, And it cannot be increased due to your haste

If, in your heart, you possess contentment, Then you and those who possess the world are equal

And for him upon whose horizon death descends, No earth can offer him protection, nor any sky

Indeed, the earth of Allah is certainly vast, But if decree descends, then the world constricts

Let days be the ones that betray you at all times, For no cure can avail a person of death.

Imam Ash-Shafi’iee (rahimahullah)

Empowerment of women speech

 

 

And so I ask you to unlearn. I ask you to stand up and tell the world that you are a slave to nothing—not to fashion, not to beauty, not to men. You are a slave to God and God alone. I ask you to tell the world that you’re not here to please men with your body; You’re here to please God. So to those who mean well and wish to ‘liberate’ you, just smile and say: “Thanks, but no thanks.”

 

Tell them you’re not here to be on display. And your body is not for public consumption. Make sure the world knows that you will never be reduced to an object, or a pair of legs to sell shoes. You are a soul, a mind, a servant of God. And your worth is defined by the beauty of that soul, that heart, that moral character. So, you don’t worship their beauty standards; you don’t submit to their fashion sense. Your submission is to something higher.

Yasmin Mogahed, Empowerment of women speech 

Stereotipe

 

“Ih, masa sih seorang dokter masih bisa jatuh sakit, sampai dirawat di rumah sakit pula.”

“Masa sih ahli gizi berat badannya ga ideal? Malu dong.”

“Wow, masa iya sih guru kok anaknya sampai ga naik kelas?”

Pernah dengar selentingan semacam itu? Panas ga kupingnya kalo kekurangan yang kita miliki kemudian dihubung-hubungkan dengan segala sesuatu yang menjadi identitas kita?

Itu contoh kasus sederhana. Ada juga yang lebih pelik, seperti “Ih ga oke banget sih, masa jilbaban masih begitu juga kelakuannya.” Atau, “Ngakunya Muslim kok kayak begitu sifatnya.”

Sekarang coba dibalik statemennya.

“Nah itu, Kang Ujang yang jago debus, berdarah juga kan waktu digigit nyamuk. Melilit juga kan kalau seharian ga makan nasi, karena fitrah manusia itu makan makanan yang baik, bukan makan beling.”

Apa bedanya?

Mungkin sering ya diantara kita yang terlalu mudah menghakimi seseorang karena identitasnya. Seorang jilbaber seolah dianggap hina dina ketika melakukan sebuah kesalahan kecil. Sedangkan mbak-mbak yang mondar-mandir dengan pede menggunakan rok mini, seolah dianggap biasa. Terus, seperti fenomena yang selama ini terjadi. Amerika dan antek-anteknya yang jelas-jelas berbuat teror di seluruh penjuru negeri kaum Muslim, seakan-akan bersih dari label “Teroris”. Now, who’s the real terorist?

Gajah di pelupuk mata tak nampak, sedangkan kuman di seberang pulau nampak besar sekali. Mengutip juga sebuah kutipan menarik dari Tere Liye,

“Manusia adalah pengacara yang hebat untuk kesalahan diri sendiri, tetapi berubah menjadi hakim yang mahsyur untuk kesalahan orang lain.”

Manusia berbuat khilaf itu wajar, selama dia tidak meyakini bahwa kekhilafan itu sah-sah saja dikerjakan. Fitrah manusia, siapapun itu, adalah cenderung kepada kebenaran, bukan mengingkarinya. Setan saja yang selalu cerdik menyetir hawa nafsu manusia. Nah, itulah gunanya kita dianjurkan untuk belajar, mengkaji Islam, dan berteman dengan orang-orang shalih, agar ruang gerak setan untuk menjerumuskan kita semakin sempit.

Menjiplak gaya bicara Bang Napi,

“Kesalahan terjadi bukan karena Islam, karena Islam adalah dien yang terjamin dan sempurna. Kesalahan berasal dari individu masing-masing yang rentan mengalami futur dan alpa. Maka, waspadalah, waspadalah.”

Sekian. Wallaahu a’lam. 🙂

“Pada hari ini telah Kusempurnakan untukmu agamamu, dan telah Kucukupkan kepadamu nikmat-Ku, dan telah Kuridhai Islam itu menjadi agama bagimu.” (QS. Al-Maa’idah : 3)

semoga tulisan dari kak lathifa ini bisa menyadarkan kita akan pentingnya menjaga prasangka toh kita tidak boleh menghakimi  seseorang karena identitasnya seakan-akan kesalahan kecil yang dilakukan menghapus semua perbuatan baik yang dia lakukan ,

well like everyone said when i do a good thing no one remember but when i make a mistake no one forget  but wait please don’t use that idiot statemen in this life. it no longer useful, the real people don’t use it anymore ~

Sumber ; laninalathifa

I’ll not take my hijab off

There is a Question from someone :

Salaam. I really need some advice.. I really feel like taking my hijab off. Not because I want attention, but because I fear going out in public with it. I feel someone will say something rude or stereotypical and I just feel “stuck” with it and a bit forced to wear it…. I feel I can’t do something as simple as volunteering with it on, because of my fear. Please help?

Answer: 

Waalaykom Assalaam.

Worst case scenario: Someone says the absolute worst thing to you that you could ever imagine. That you are a towel head. Terrorist. That you’re hideous because you cover your head. 

What then? Do you cry? Yell? Punch him in the face? Or do you stand up to that person and say, “I have a choice, as a woman, to wear whatever I want,whenever I want. You can feel free to say anything you want to me, but you can’t take away my choice. No one can—because Islam gave me that choice.” 

Do you wallow in self pity or do you stand up for yourself and all those Muslim women who have been beaten down by ignorance and a false sense of pride? 

I’m not trying to be rude or put you down. Not at all. And I commend you on taking the steps to wear the hijab in the first place—for some of us, it’s the hardest decision we’ve made. But don’t let your fear of others change your mind…because that means they’ll win. 

Find your confidence again, dear. Take pride in your ability, not just the way you look. If you’re volunteering at a hospital, complete your tasks splendidly. Represent Islam with pride, and show people that Muslim women can excel,despite what they may think. Because, whether we like it or not, we each of us represents our religion, especially when living in the West. 

I pray for only the best for you. And if you take nothing else away from here, just know that your decisions need to be based around your idea and yourunderstanding of Islam. Do not let others make decisions for you and do not let any person scare you. 

I got this conversation from TheGreaterJihad

Remember Your Role Model

  • when becoming humiliated, remember the Prophet [Peace be upon him] in Ta’if.  

 

  • When being starved, remember the Prophet [Peace be upon him] tying two stones to his stomach in the battle of Khandaq. 

 

  • When becoming angry, remember the Prophet [Peace be upon him]’s control of anger on the martyrdom of his beloved Uncle Hamza.

 

  • When losing a tooth, remember the Prophet [Peace be upon him] ‘s tooth in the battle of Uhud. 

 

  • When bleeding from any part of the body, remember the Prophet [Peace be upon him]’s body covered in blood on his return from Ta’if. 

 

  • When feeling lonely, remember the Prophet [Peace be upon him]’s seclusion in Mount Hira.        

 

  •  When feeling tired in Salaat, remember the Prophet [Peace be upon him]’s blessed feet in Tahajjud.

 

  •  When being prickled with thorns, remember the Prophet[Peace be upon him]’s pain from Abu Lahab’s wife.

 

  • When being troubled by neighbours, remember the old woman who would empty rubbish on the Prophet[Peace be upon him].

 

  •  When losing a child, remember the Prophet[Peace be upon him] ’s son, Ibrahim.

 

  •  When beginning a long journey, remember the Prophet [Peace be upon him]’s long journey to Madinah.

 

  •  When going against a Sunnah, remember the Prophet[Peace be upon him] ’s intercession, (Ummati, Ummati, Ummati) (My Ummah).

 

  •  When sacrificing an animal, remember the Prophet[Peace be upon him]’s sacrifice of 63 animals for his Ummah.

 

  •  Before shaving your beard, remember the Prophet[Peace be upon him] ’s face rejecting the two beardless Iranians.

 

  • When falling into an argument with your wife, remember the Prophet [Peace be upon him]’s encounter with Aisha and Hafsa (Radhiallahu anha)

 

  • When experiencing less food in the house, remember the Prophet [Peace be upon him]’s days of poverty.

 

  •  When experiencing poverty, remember the Prophet [Peace be upon him]’s advice to Ashaab-e-Suffa (People of Suffa).

 

  •  When losing a family member, remember the Prophet [Peace be upon him]’s departure from this world.

 

  •  When becoming an orphan, remember the Prophet [Peace be upon him] ‘s age at six.

 

  •  When sponsoring an orphan, remember the Prophet [Peace be upon him] ‘s sponsor for Zaid ibn Haritha.

 

  •   When fearing an enemy, remember the Prophet [Peace be upon him]’s saying to Abu Bakr in Mount Thour.

Whatever situation you may find yourself in, remember your role model, the best of creation: Prophet Muhammad [Peace be upon him]

Advice :)

 

If you do not want punishment to be written in your account, behave well with your parents.

If you want to be known amongst people as an intelligent person, always fear Allah.

If you want to be counted amongst Allah’s favourites, recite Quran every morning and evening.

If you want your heart to always be enlightened, never forget death.

If you never want to be away from Allah’s blessings, treat fellow creatures well.

If you never want to be harmed by your enemies, always have faith in Allah.

If you never want to be humiliated, be careful of your actions.

If you want to live long, always do sile rahm (goodness towards blood relations)

If you wish to stay free of the punishment of the grave, always wear pure clothes.

If you don’t want to burn in hell, control your eyes and tongues.

If you want forgiveness, repent with sincere humility to Allah.

If you want to be respected, never extend you hand of need at people.

If you always want to be honoured, never humiliate or put anyone down.

If you don’t want to be squashed by the grave recite Surah Mulk often.

If you want your wealth to increase, recite Surah Waqia every night.

If you want to be safe and at peace on the day of judgement, do dhikr of Allah from dusk to night.

If you want to be in full attention and concentration during salah, do your wudhu with concentration and attention.

 

 – Prophet Muhammad (saw) Peace Be Upon Him 😦

PROBLEMS WITH BEING A MALE

PROBLEMS WITH BEING A MALE

  • Having emotions is seen as weakness
  • Admitting weakness is seen as an even greater weakness
  • Being called a sexual deviant or a pervert because you were expressing your sexuality
  • A girl beating you in any physical competition makes you inferior
  • Being superficial makes you a pig but a woman being superficial is fine
  • Makeup isn’t even an option
  • Not living up to the insanely unrealistic ideal of manhood automatically makes you gay
  • Being gay is seen as weak
  • You can’t control the size of your “manhood”
  • You can’t report sexual assaults because being a male victim is worse than being the rapist
  • No male specific support groups or movements
  • Unequal parental rights
  • Extreme feminists treating you less than human
  • Women can blame all men or say they are all the same but if a man blames women they’re sexist pigs
  • People dismissing your problems automatically because the universe is obviously rigged in your favour in every scenario imaginable
  • No one will read this past the title

Don’t Forget Akhira

 

Very often we get so busy with the dunya (world) we forget akhira (afterlife), we are too busy going to school, too busy working, too busy sleeping, too busy working for dunya and not Akhirah.

We remind our selves to wake up 6:30 because we have school/work but we forget to pray salaah fajr or to thank Allah for waking you up healthy and fine.
We remember to check out our Facebook and what is new there we forget time and it passes us blindly.
We get to tired, we eat, we drink, so we sleep with out praying isha and thanking Allah for letting us survive the day.

Remember what Allah said in surah al Baqarah ayah 2:152 “So remember Me; I will remember you. And be grateful to Me and do not deny Me.”
He also says in surah Imran ayah 185 “Every soul shall have a taste of death: And only on the Day of Judgment shall you be paid your full recompense. Only he who is saved far from the Fire and admitted to the Garden will have attained the object (of Life): For the life of this world is but goods and chattels of deception.”

Dont get blinded byt the looks of dunya.